How to Change Behaviour – Mad’u (The Prospect)

Can you change someone who does not want to change?

Everything that all living things do is either directly or indirectly relate to bringing some type of good or pushing away potential harm. Can you argue against this point?

·         Make the person feel that the change or fixing the problem is easy.

·         Have high expectations of the individual and respect their intelligence.

·         Use the law of inertia; start with the easiest thing to change then use that to move other things in the right direction.

·         Seek their help or advice to assist with a problem similar to theirs.

·         Let them suggest the solutions.

·         To change someone`s behaviour you need to change their goals.

·         Get them to feel that the new way is consistent with who they are in order and consistency, let them know that this is a continuation departure from it.

·         Be enthusiastic, as enthusiasm is contagious.

·         Be gentle, not aggressive.

·         Do not start by attacking them or something they love.

Points to Ponder: “If you force me upon your point of view, then be sure that I am still upon mine.“

When dealing with Youth

·         Praise them.

·         Avoid reactance. If you ask them not to do something, definitely they will do it.