Posted by Umm Sahl in Hijab, Inspiring Stories | 14 Comments
How I Changed My Life…
By Arjuman Khan
Allah says in the Qur’an:
[It is not for a believer, man or woman, when Allâh and His Messenger have decreed a matter that they should have any option in their decision. And whoever disobeys Allâh and His Messenger, he has indeed strayed in a plain error." (33:36).
ASSALAMALAIKUM
I am 32 years married to a loving husband Mehmood and with 2 lovely children, Alhamdulillah. As all women I am also busy with household chores, taking care of husband and kids. Oh I am so tired with all these tensions and worries of life.
I met 2 of my friends ‘X’ and ‘Y’ on internet after 10 long years, we started talking daily and sharing our lives. Both happily married Alhamdulillah. One friend told me to check the site [www.areweprepared.ca]. She asked me to read it. I SAID YES, and started reading, it went on and on to my surprise I was loving it and waiting daily for new posts. I was happy that I started understanding my religion better and clearing all my doubts. I was changing now, I loved my husband for the sake of ALLAH [SWT], took care of my kids and home for the sake of ALLAH[SWT],all work seems easy along with the dhikr of ALLAH[SWT]. Now I prayed five times sincerely. I wait for all adhan’s as this is the time when I spend direct contact with my Lord ALLAH, the Most Gracious Most Merciful.
Allah says:
[“Those who believed (in the oneness of Allah) and whose hearts find rest in the remembrance of Allah, Verily in the remembrance of Allah do hearts find rest.” (13:28)
All tensions and worries were gone as I know ALLAH [SWT] knows what’s best for me.
One day ‘Y’ asked me when are you going to start wearing hijab, I replied soon Insha Allah. She said do it now as only ALLAH [SWT] and no one knows when is our last breath. Allah says in the Qur’an:
[“Verily the knowledge of the Hour is with Allah (alone)” (31:34)
This was a statement which changed my life. She also told me that even if my family does not support me, I should not listen to them.
Prophet Mohammed (SAW) said: “There is no obedience to any creation in which the disobedience of the Creator is involved” (Sahih Ahmad)
We all as kids obey our parents, in school obey our teachers, at work obey our bosses, and after marriage obey our husbands. Just give it a thought; are we obeying our Creator, the Most Powerful and Superior ALLAH? For most of us the answer will be NO.
Allah says:
[“Therefore Remember Me, and I will remember you, and be thankful for Me and do not be ungrateful to Me.”
Once I decided to wear hijab, I could hear satan whispering, WHAT ARE U DOING? WHO WILL ADMIRE YOUR BEAUTY? ALL WILL LAUGH AT YOU? CALL YOU BY FUNNY NAMES? I shook my head and thought I am not here to please everyone; I am here to please ALLAH [SWT].
[“Say: Lo! my worship and my sacrifice and my living and my dying are for Allah, Lord of the Worlds. He has no partner. This am I commanded, and I am first of those who surrender (unto Him)” (Al-An`am6: 162,163)
This made it easy for me now. I feel secure and confident when I leave home now. I know soon people will respect me for my obedience to ALLAH [SWT].Ameen. I thank ALLAH[SWT]who gave me the support of my parents, my children, my two internet friends, who encouraged me to become a better person, and last but not the least my husband without whose love and support I would never be able to face the harsh world.
Allah says in the Qur’an:
["And say to the believing women that they should lower their gaze and guard their modesty; that they should not display their beauty and ornaments except what (ordinarily) appear thereof; that they should draw their veils over their bosoms and not display their beauty except to their husbands, their fathers, their husbands' fathers, their sons, their husbands' sons, their brothers, or their brothers' sons, or their sisters' sons, or their women, or the slaves whom their right hands possess or male servants free of physical needs, or small children who have no sense of the shame of sex; and that they should not strike their feet in order to draw attention to their hidden ornaments. And O ye Believers! Turn ye all together towards Allah that ye may attain Bliss."
I pray to ALLAH [SWT] that he gives hidayah to all Muslim women around the world. Ameen. Now I know there is no other religion except Islam which gives respect to women.
Umm Sahl, your sister in Islam, a wife and mother of 3 beautiful blessed babies
Walaiakum Assalam Sister Arjuman…
Tears filled my eyes as I read this article of yours.
Alhamdulillah, I feel so happy for you.
May Allah help all of us to implement what we learn in our life.
May Allah help to make this site beneficial to all of us in the same way how it helped you.
May Allah help all those women who have not yet started Hijab start it soon.
Ameen…
Inshallah May your experience inspire many more to be in the right path.
Thanks for sharing it.
Jazakkallah
Shayistha, even my eyes were with tears…may Allah reward you and all others…
May Allah always give you, sister Arjuman and all of us peace within ourselves, and this will be so if we continue with steadfastness, following the Book of Allah and Sunnah of Rasoolullah…
Mashallah,may allah reward you sister Arjuman and may he help all of us to become better muslims.Like sister arjuman i too wait eagerly for new posts in "arewepreapred".May allah reward shayistha for all the effort she is taking to educate all of us about islam.Ameen.
Want to add one more point. Our beauty should be only for our beloved husband. We should do our best to please them and when our husband sees us, they should be happy.
Apply makeup, beautify ourself,wear the best clothes at home etc in the best possible manner for our husbands only.
Sister Arjuman Walaikum asslam u r a housewife like me and u have written a great article so unlike me.
Yes i liked u r choice of verses of Holy Quran they r so relevant.
And by the way I was also surprised when suddenly my internet had some problems and I could not log on to areweprepared for two days I missed reading articles so much.
I love wearing Hijab.Now I have started experimenting different styles and colours of Hijab.Internet has many on line shopping shops for hijab.
Wearing hijab and covering head is what differentiates between an obedient servant of Allah and others.U have a good intention of obeying Allah Amighty.Only Allah can give u reward for that.
Sister u r so strong u brushed away the whispering of Satan. I learned a lot from u.May Allah make me as strong as u r.I agree with u when u say Islam gives women respect and I think its time now that women also give respect to themselves by obeying Allah Almighty and wearing Hijab.
asalaam alaikum sister,
May Allah reward you for all your efforts, alhumdullah your family and friends have supported you in this very important step you have taken and may Allah reward them as well for their support to you.
Keep strong and always remember that pleasing your Lord is the most important thing in life.
walaikum asalaam
May All sisters in islam have peace and blessings of Allah azawajal.. and certainly its true that
"…in the remembrance of Allah do hearts find rest"
May Allah bless us all.
Ameen
MashAllah,may Allah reward u sister, for sharing your firmness in praticing deen,such an inspiration for all of us
May Allah makes us all steadfast in our DEEN.ameen
THANK YOU ALL FOR THE COMMENTS,PLEASE PRAY THAT I GO ON OBEYING ALLAH[SWT]TILL MY LAST BREATH.AMEEN.
Lovely Article Arjuman, I am sooo happy for you dear.Very well written, Inshallah u will be an inspiration to many many Muslims out there who hesitate in wering their Hijab. May Allah fulfil all your dreams and wishes and dwell your place in Jannah in the hearafter, Ameen.
asalam alaikum
I AM VERY HAPPY FOR YOU. MAY ALLAH GIVE YOU ISTAQAMAT. INSHALLAH YOU WIL BE REWARDED BY ALLAH FOR THIS.
This is truly a moving experience… Indeed the Ultimate Hidayah comes from Allah. But we need to do our job by passing on valuables to our people.. we never know when and how our influence can spark to change a person’s life totally by the will of Allah.. and we would also be rewarded for our efforts..This is one small beautiful example… May Allah reward these amazing people Ameen
MashaAllah, very nice article.