Oct 17, 2009
Posted by Umm Sahl in Daily Pearls | 4 Comments
Meeting Women in Seclusion
‘Uqba b. Amir reported Allaah’s Messenger (sallAllaahu alayhi wa sallam) as saying: Beware of getting, into the houses and meeting women (in seclusion). A person from the Ansir said: Allaah’s Messenger, what about husband’s brother, whereupon he said: Husband’s brother is like death. (Muslim, 5400)
Umm Sahl, your sister in Islam, a wife and mother of 3 beautiful blessed babies
In most of the Cultures, this matter is taken very lightly. Specially when it comes to brother in law. Women tend to be without hijab or just covering their hair with some light material cloth, just for the sake of covering.
Women forget that brother in laws are not their Mahrams. They need to observe proper hijab in front of non mahram men including their own brother in laws…
It gets very difficult if they are having brother in laws staying in the house all the time, because then observing hijab all the time is not very easy specially inside your own house… But women have to observe the teachings of the Allah and the Prophet (SAW) 🙂
Subhan Allah, Allah gives us all the ways to avoid all unwanted relationships and mistakes by observing proper Islamic etiquette.
Barakallahu fihi, I am increased in knowledge. I was lost about the clause that "brother in laws are death", but get informed now from the contributions of Shayistha above.
We have to continue to struggle to imbibe the Islamic culture as against most of our own local cultures.
May Allah make it easy for our women to observe this doctrine.
Zakariyah
JazakAllahu Khairan brother for the comment.
We need to even support such women who are trying to observe these etiquette’s.
Sometimes it happens that women want to practice hijab in front of her non mahram relatives, but her husband, or the mother in law or other people in the family do not support her of it saying, "your brother in law is like your brother, why are you wearing hijab at home". So when the core family members do not support her, satan will find a way out and make her remove her hijab. May Allah save us from such a situation. Ameen.
But we need to understand that in laws in specific the brother in laws are not mahrams for a women. So women have to observe hijab in front of her brother in law.
jazakiAllah khair sister for a detailed explanation…may Allah help us out to eliminate all local norms that comes our way in following our deen…you are right that other family members really don’t encourage such an act and she is left being alien…may Allah help us to be so-called alien rather than a follower of satan and his ideas..