Apr 6, 2009

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How To Be A Successful Husband.

By Muhammad Al Shareef

  1. Dress up for your wife, look clean and smell good.When was the last time us men went shopping for designer pajamas? Just like the husband wants his wife to look nice for him, she also wants her husband to dress up for her too. Remember that Rasul Allah – sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam – would always start with Miswak when returning home and always loved the sweetest smells.
     
  2. Use the cutest names for your wife. Rasul Allah – sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam – had nicknames for his wives, ones that they loved. Call your wife by the most beloved names to her, and avoid using names that hurt their feelings.
     
  3. Don't treat her like a fly. We never think about a fly in our daily lives until it 'bugs' us. Similarly, a wife will do well all day – which brings no attention from the husband – until she does something to 'bug' him. Don't treat her like this; recognize all the good that she does and focus on that.
     
  4. If you see wrong from your wife, try being silent and do not comment! This is one of the ways Rasul Allah – sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam – used when he would see something inappropriate from his wives – radi Allahu 'anhunn. It's a technique that few Muslim men have mastered.
  5. Smile at your wife whenever you see her and embrace her often. Smiling is Sadaqah and your wife is not exempt from the Muslim Ummah. Imagine life with her constantly seeing you smiling. Remember also those Ahadith when Rasul Allah – sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam – would kiss his wife before leaving for Salah, even if he was fasting.
  6. Thank her for all that she does for you. Then thank her again! Take for example a dinner at your house. She makes the food, cleans the home, and a dozen other tasks to prepare. And sometimes the only acknowledgement she receives is that there needed to be more salt in the soup. Don't let that be; thank her!
  7. Ask her to write down the last ten things you did for her that made her happy. Then go and do them again. It may be hard to recognize what gives your wife pleasure. You don't have to play a guessing game, ask her and work on repeating those times in your life.
  8. Don't belittle her desires. Comfort her. Sometimes the men may look down upon the requests of their wives. Rasul Allah – sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam set the example for us in an incident when Safiyyah – radi Allahu 'anha – was crying because, as she said, he had put her on a slow camel. He wiped her tears, comforted her, and brought her the camel.
  9. Be humorous and Play games with your wife. Look at how Rasul Allah – SalAllahu alayhi wa sallam – would race his wife Aisha – radi Allahu 'anha – in the desert. When was the last time we did something like that?
     
  10.  Always remember the words of Allah's Messenger – SalAllahu alayhi wa sallam: "The best of you are those who treat their families the best. And I am the best amongst you to my family." Try to be the best!

Source: http://www.farhathashmi.com

How to be a Successful Wife

  1. Just for fun..

    My Husband and Myself played a game reading this article, I rated him for each point.

    Play this game with your husband, only if you are 100% sure that he wont get hurt. Make sure his feelings/sentiments are not hurt.

    Play this game in a very nice spirit.

  2. MUHAMMED KABEER says:

    This tips is very suitable for husbend and wife to be good and will get good position in the life here in after.
    Many many thanks for such good article for the life secure int he society.
    Muhammed Kabeer
    Dubai.

  3. arjuman says:

    OK I WAS WAITING FOR THIS ARTICLE.MEN SHOULD ALSO HAVE SOMETHING TO CHANGE FOR THEIR WIVES.INSHA ALLAH I HOPE AND PRAY THAT MANY HUSBANDS READ THIS ARTICLE AND TREAT THEIR WIVES AS HUMANS FIRST.AMEEN.

  4. Jaseela says:

    a very good article indeed.very rarely do we come across articles like this.What we see very commonly are the articles regarding the duties of a wife.Let this be an eye opener for every husband.

  5. I think i should put more for men now;) Actually I have..Insha Allah I shall add in slowly.

  6. May Allah open the heart of every man towards her wife.Amen.

  7. caroline says:

    asalaam alaikum

    just another point to be added, not sure if it will be of any importance, but as women we not only need to know the duties of a good wife but also of a good husband not to point fingers at our husbands, but because as mothers or future mothers we will be teaching our children (especially sons) thes values which in turn will make him a good husband in the future inshallah…..

    Ameen

  8. Walaiakaum Assalam Caroline..

    Thats a lovely comment, Subhan Allah..

    We really need to know those to teach our sons:) insha Allah.

    My dad always tells us, we should teach our male child to do all the household chores.

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