Jul 6, 2015

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Last Ten Nights and the Big “M”

Last 10 nights of Ramadan are upon us and I am sure all of us are aware of the virtues of these blessed nights. But I am listing some virtues as a reminder to all of us because Allah (swt) says in the Quran: Surah Dhariyat, verse 55: “And remind for verily, the reminding benefits the believers.”

    • Etiquette of the prophet (salAllahu alayhi wa salam) in the last 10 nights: abstain from sexual desires, practice itikaaf and even seclude himself from his wives.

 

    • Al-Bukhari and Muslim record from ‘Aishah that during the last ten days of Ramadan, the messenger of Allah (salAllahu alayhi wa salam) would wake his wives up during the night and then remain apart from them (that is, being busy in acts of worship).

 

    • A version in Muslim states: “He would strive [to do acts of worship] during the last ten days of Ramadan more than he would at any other time.”

 

  • The prophet (salAllahu alayhi wa salam) would fasten his loin cloth (like rolling sleeves up; meaning he would abstain from approaching his wives even at nights) in these last 10 nights.

During this time we are constantly reminded to engage in nafl salaat comprising of long standing at night and increase our recitation of the Quran. But for some of us, this might be a time when we are going through our menstrual cycle (or post-natal bleeding).

Naturally, it is not easy to stay positive at times, especially when we see the world around us rushing to masajids for taraweeh prayers, indulging in ‘itikaaf and reciting the Quran. This might lead us to feeling deprived of the reward of these blessed nights and decrease our spirituality rather than increasing it.

In this article, I hope to highlight some practical ways in which you can make the best of last 10 nights of Ramadan while going through your menstrual cycle (or post-natal bleeding), without feeling “left out”.

First and foremost, realize that our menstrual cycle is part of Allah (swt)’s creation and something that is ordained by Him (swt).

Allah (swt) tells us in the Quran that He has created us in the best of molds (Surah at-Teen, verse 4). We are also told in the Quran that for everything Allah has “appointed a due proportion” (Surah at-Talaq, verse 2-3) and that “for every matter there is an appointed time given” (Surat ar-Rad, ayah 38).

Thus, to complain about it would be to question the Wisdom of Allah (swt), a’uoodubillah.

Some women think it is more virtuous to fast even though they are on their menses. In their ignorance they make this exception in the month of Ramadan. But rather, they need to realize that it is more virtuous for them to comply with the Command of Allah (swt). It is more rewarding for them to do as they are told by Allah (swt) i.e. not pray or fast while they are on their menses.

Also realize that there are many other ways of achieving spirituality while we are on our menses besides salaah, siyaam and itikaaf.

The prophet (salAllahu alayhi wa salam) is reported to have said that, “Dua is the very essence of ‘ibadah.” The prophet (salAllahu alayhi wa salam) said, “Allah is in the assistance of [His] servant, as long as the servant aids his brother.” He (salAllahu alayhi wa salam) also said, “Whoever feeds a fasting person will have a reward like that of the fasting person, without any reduction in his reward.”

Listed below are few suggestions that a muslimah can do while she is not fasting due to menstruation or post-natal bleeding.

Wake up at Fajr time

    • Repeat after the fajr adhan
    • Make dua between adhan and iqaama
    • Make dua for intercession of prophet (salAllahu alayhi wa salam) after the adhan
    • Make fajr adhkar:10 times: “la ilaha ilAllah wahdahu la shareekah la, lahul mulk wa lahul hamd wa huwa ‘ala kulli shay’in qadeer.
      Recite ayat al kursi
      Recite surah Ikhlaas, surah Falaq, surah Nas – 3 times
      Other adhkar found in Fortress of the Muslim

 

  • Say the morning adkhar
  • Read an English translation of half-juz of the Quran

Enjoining good: encourage your family to pray Salaat al Duha

The Prophet (sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam) called it the salah of the obedient. Reported by Imam Ahmad in his musnad: Abu Hurayrah (radhi Allahu ‘anhu) narrated that the prophet (salAllahu alayhi wa salam) would never miss the salat al-awabeen, which was Salat al Duha.

Duhr time

  • Repeat after the duhr adhan
  • Make dua between adhan and iqaama
  • Make dua for intercession of prophet (salAllahu alayhi wa salam) after the adhan
  • Engage in more dhikr and dua

Asr time

  • Repeat after the asr adhan
  • Make dua between adhan and iqaama
  • Make dua for intercession of prophet (salAllahu alayhi wa salam) after the adhan
  • Engage in more dhikr and dua
  • Read an English translation of half-juz of the Quran

Maghrib time

  • Repeat after the maghrib adhan
  • Help people break their fast by passing out dates and water
  • Make dua between adhan and iqaama
  • Make dua for intercession of prophet (salAllahu alayhi wa salam) after the adhan
  • Engage in more dhikr and dua

Isha time

  • Repeat after the isha adhan
  • Make dua between adhan and iqaama
  • Make dua for intercession of prophet (salAllahu alayhi wa salam) after the adhan
  • Engage in more dhikr and dua
  • Have family circle time at home
  • Have a male member of the house recite the Quran to the rest of the family followed by tafsir of those ayat

Before sleeping

  • Make wudu (this even applies to women with menses)
  • Recite surah Mulk
  • Ask your spouse for forgiveness before sleeping
  • Recite ayat al kursi
  • Make dua and dhikr

Other acts that can be done

At the masjids

  • Spread salaams at the masjid
  • Sponsor iftaars at various masajids if possible
  • Volunteer for masjid clean up afterwards
  • Babysit during Taraweeh so that the mothers (and everyone else!) can pray with khushu’ and concentration
  • Make a CD of beautiful Quran recitation and duaas in mp3 and distribute it to people at the masjid

At home

  • Have a qiyaam program for other sisters at your house – prepare iftar and suhoor for them
  • Look for new converts, those who are newly practicing or people who have lost touch with the community and invite them over for iftar and eid
  • Think of eid party ideas/gifts for family, spouse, children, neighbors

In your own time

  • Memorize ayat of the Quran – use online resources
  • Donate everyday – clothes, money
  • Make tawbah and shukr
  • Memorize Allah’s names and their meanings
  • Find out who is sick in your area or in the hospital and go visit them
  • Always keep your tongue moist with the dhikr and remembrance of Allah (swt). Say subhanAllah, alhumdulilah, la ilaaha illalha, Allahu akbar and say salaams on the prophet (salAllahu alayhi wa salam) while cooking, cleaning, driving etc. and may Allah make these words heavy on your scaled on the day of judgment.

Source: www.habibihalaqas.org

  1. masha Allah! very nice and useful article

  2. Great Tips indeed!

  3. Irfan Malik says:

    Jazakallah… its very beautiful reminder!!

  4. Excellent article…there’s plenty to do for a menstruating woman! Subuhanallah

    PS. I had this notion all along the there is no point in performing ablution for a woman during her menses:)

  5. Fazna Munsreen says:

    Jazakallah khair!Subhanallh!this is exactly what i was looking for & wanted the sisters who are in their menses to know.Alhamdulillah!

  6. Asslamu Alikum!!!

    Mashallah !! nice article
    but i heard that during menses we cant Recite ayat al kursi..
    so ,plz clear my doubt …

  7. Walaikum Assalam

    Sister Fozia, as per majority of scholars it is allowed for women to recite Qur’an from her memory during her menses:) Alhamdulillah:)

  8. Jazakallah khair! sister ..
    🙂

  9. MashaAllah.. a very beneficial article for sisters….

  10. masahAllah indeed very useful article..
    keep up this good work
    may Allah swt reward u the best.Ameen

  11. MashaAllah! A very good and beneficial article!
    thanks a lot Shayistha.

    Jazakallah Khair.

  12. Azeeja Aman says:

    Jazakallah Khair…Indeed a very informative article… 🙂 Its so good to know that we have a lot to do wen we cant fast during those days…

  13. Wa Iyyaki

    Very true Azeeja:)

  14. Great tips and excellent reminders. We have to value there simple acts that can bless us with the pleasure of Allah. Often we are too negligent towards performing such deeds that has led our communities deprived of the love that is demonstrated through such beautiful acts. Subhan Allah we should perform there acts.

  15. Mashallah

    JazakAllah Khairen

  16. Mohd Javeed says:

    MasAllaah JazakAllaahKair

  17. Shabana Khan says:

    jazakallahu Khairan,for the information, Its really helpful for the sisters who are in the state of M—

  18. Jazakkallah Khairan …

  19. jazakAllah sister, it is very much in need wen one is goin through it, Alhamdulillah.

  20. Assalaamu alaikum wa rahmatullaahi wa barakaatuhu sisters,

    Its a very good article and very authentic. Jazakallaahu khairan. May ALlah reward your deeds.

  21. Fathima Chemnad says:

    Masha Allah. very good. Its really helpful.
    Jazakallahu khairen

  22. Masha’Allaah very educative for menstration ladies not to have an excuse of not remembering Allaah…while IN their DAYS…

  23. amina remmy says:

    Masha’Allaah a very beautiful and nyc reminder. God blessyou all

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